Biblical Sex

Biblical Sex
The Book

We All Have Beliefs. What Does Scripture Really Say? What Does Scripture NOT Say?


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Biblical Sex

By Calebb Cross


Old Testament Passages

Applicable to Christians, Hebrews, and Atheists






Our secular society and the Church are wrestling, no fighting, over the place of sex in our lives. There has been a firestorm over the past few years because some religious teachers “have had the audacity” to teach that certain heretofore forbidden sex acts were, in fact, plainly declared in Scripture (Song of Solomon). Biblical Sex is not the work to delineate examples of such.  Those examples are understood by all.  The purpose of this book is far broader in that the goal is to investigate what the Whole Scripture says about sex, not so much the manner and acts of it, but in what context may sex biblically occur.  In accomplishing that goal, we must have the courage to let the outcome be dictated by the accurate, contextual, historical, rational, and natural interpretation of Scripture.  For the next short while, set aside all preconceptions and open your mind to the evidence (and silence) of Scripture so that you may declare the whole counsel of God. Please do not make the mistake of equating “thus saith the Lord” (the Bible) with “there must be something wrong with what I’m reading because none of my pastors/priests/rabbis has ever even hinted at such nonsense,” (tradition). 


I am well aware of Genesis 3:1 where the serpent asked, “Did God really say…?”  Also, Jeremiah 29:32 and its implications of such in this topic.  He will have no one left among this people, nor will he see the good things I will do for my people, declares the LORD, because he has preached rebellion against me.”  The responsibility is great.  I ask that those who have equated tradition with “Thus saith the Lord” in context, to apply the very same standard to themselves.  By the end of the book we may not agree and I may be incorrect, but I dare to say that each reader will at least adjust the level of condemnation & judgment of their friends, relatives, and members of their religious assemblies, who have lived differently than we have all been taught, concerning sexual practice.


Foundationally, I believe the following and endeavor to be true to these beliefs.  If you are either Jewish or atheist, I do not expect you to adhere to this, but I do ask that you hold me consistently to them.  They are the standard that I have set for myself in this endeavor.


  1. God is eternal and exists in 3 Persons; Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
  2. God created all matter, energy, and life.  Many readers will hold to God’s creation of Adam and Eve on the 6th day.  There is no argument here.
  3. Mankind all sinned through the first sin of Adam and therefore, all need a Savior.
  4. Jesus, the Christ (Messiah), born of the Virgin Mary, is that Savior, by means of his Deity, perfect life, and substitutionary death on the cross as payment to a Holy God for the sins of all mankind for all ages.
  5. Eternal, Holy God, being omnipotent and omniscient, has the capacity to communicate to His creation and to be understood.  He did so in the Bible, God’s Word.  He meant His Word to be understood.  He said what He meant and He meant what he said.  If He is silent, I must be very careful in declaring, “Thus saith the Lord” on that issue.
  6. “For by grace are you saved, through faith, and that (faith) is not of yourselves, it (too) is a gift of God; not of works, lest any person should boast.” Eph 2:8-9.  Mankind is “saved” from hell to heaven only through the Person and Work of the Son of God, Jesus Christ.  No work of our own can procure salvation and no work of our own can lose our salvation, once given by grace through faith.


It is interesting that those who have historically screamed the loudest over “sexual sin”, have in many cases been guilty of “other sins” that were not recognized to be “as sinful” as a particular sexual sin.  This work will not make that mistake.  As there is absolutely sexual sin (adultery, rape, domestic sexual abuse, etc.), there is also gluttony (obesity), sloth, hatred, murder, anger, spouse abuse, child abuse, selfishness, greed, envy, jealousy, neglect, control/slavery, gossip, drunkenness, etc., etc., etc.  If you are guilty of any of these types of sins on an ongoing basis, then please have the decency to withhold eternal condemnation of those whose actions in the sexual area you deem to be sin.  We may agree or disagree, but we must be consistent.  There is no room for, “I know that I am _________, but that is not nearly as bad a sin as the _____________ (lust, fornication, nudity, lasciviousness, adultery, etc.) of that person.”


Another important preface point is that our outlook at this moment on this topic of Biblical Sex is indeed tinted by the glasses of our own life experiences.  If we have been abused, our glasses are tinted by that abuse.  If we have been an abuser, our glasses are tinted with that.  If we have been sexually sinful in any respect, our glasses are tinted with that experience.  If we have been sexually sinned against in any respect, our glasses are tinted with that circumstance.  Furthermore, if we have had someone else preach to us, “Thus saith the Lord” and that person was wrong, we are tinted (and tainted) by those false informational inputs.  It is difficult, but we must remove ourselves, as best as we can, from that tinting.  We must be honest enough to allow all evidence to be presented and we must refrain from, “That can’t be true because….”, until we get to the end of the study.


You have already seen the view of this author with reference to the weight of the Bible and its authority.  As you read the following and as you are offended, made curious, or become convinced, that this line of theology holds merit, you will need to wrestle with these three, and only 3, possible options:  1. Either the Bible is the inspired, inerrant, Word of God that means exactly what we’ve been taught that it means by our instructors, or 2. It is the inspired, inerrant, Word of God that means something different (on this particular topic) than that which we have been taught, or 3. It is a book written by men, that there is no God, and this is all of no consequence.  Some of you may hold to the third option.  Through years of struggle, questions, lack of rational answers, and much beseeching God, I’ve concluded that option 2 is the best of the 3 choices.  If after reading this work, you are convinced that option 1 is the only choice for you, please contribute to the discussion on the website and help those of us who hold to the other 2 positions to see that which you see.

Here we go.

(Please see the Credits on the last page)


Chapter One - In the Beginning…


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